YOUR MARITAL HEALTH/GETTING FIXED UP SEXUALLY: THE POSTURE OF THE FUTURE
You have learned about a new sexual system. You know that there is no reason to limit yourself to the old views of sex that emphasized penetration, thrusting, orgasm, timing, energy release, and ejaculation. To learn more about this, you may want to try a posture that emphasizes the new sexual system, one that stresses closeness, time-free interaction, pays no attention to erection, penetration, ejaculation, or orgasm, but allows for intense and mutual psychasm.
Place all of the pillows you bought for your private place into two wedge-like piles about one body length from each other. When the pillows are all arranged, each of you sit with your back to one of the two wedges, face to face, nude. Test them for comfort and support. The wife’s wedge can be a little lower and she can be a little more on her back than the husband as they face each other in this seated position. Both of your genitals should now be next to each other, the legs of one partner comfortably over the legs of the other.
In this position, the wife can reach forward or the husband can reach down and move the penis into contact with the vaginal area. Erect or not, the man can now contact the F area or the R area with the Ñ area and use his finger in the G area if his wife desires. Face to face, partners can now communicate with each other, insert the penis if desired, or continue to contact the F and Ñ areas, the two most sensitive genital areas. Each partner can caress the other. Adjust the posture so there is no stretching or muscle tension involved. Look in each other’s eyes, talk together, rest, move closer and embrace, move back and feel. Use artificial lubrication if desired. Use lotion and caress the legs of your partner now at your sides. You are sitting face to face, legs spread, comfortably resting against your own pillows.
Look at each other completely. Think about each other, about the tests you have taken to this point, about your feelings for one another. Feel the physical and emotional sensations of intimacy. Feel the contact of the two most sensitive physical areas of the body without the pressure or tension of thrusting or working for orgasm. Talk, share, and feel for as long as you choose.
Sitting face to face, embracing at will, with genitals positioned next to one another, learn and experience the fourth perspective of human sexuality. This is the perspective of pressure-free sex, intense physical intimacy without imposed expectations of erection, lubrication, or orgasm. It is a perspective of freedom to feel one another, merge with one another without the “foreplay, do it, and stop” sequence. And most important, it is a perspective of love, a love of commitment and a marital sex of male and female equality in the opportunity for personal fulfillment.
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